Vietnamese culture and dating
Whereas the anonymous author wrote a very touching article, was completely the opposite – cold, heartless, a bit appalling.
In his eyes finding a “decent” Vietnamese woman is the same process as finding a decent car: Preferably not a second hand (no divorced woman, no single mothers, no girls who have had foreign boyfriends before; should have a high market value – a well-sought after commodity), not too old (preferably the girls should below the age of 24, regardless of how old you are), should not have any scratches or defects (no tattoos; no kids; not too many ex-boyfriends; non-smoker; non-drinker; should not visit the bars), preferable from a good brand (the poorer she is, the better), it should not cost too much for maintenance (Johnson advises us to give a maximum of 0 US dollar a month to the girl to be your girlfriend) and you should have it thoroughly checked before you are using it (the girls should have had a blood test regardless of how many sex partners you have had).
How to find a good girl or woman entirely depends on your own age, socio-economic class, intelligence, culture, religion, expectations, knowledge of local language and culture and of course, most importantly, your own characteristics and background.
There is no guide-book on how to find your perfect Vietnamese girl, especially if it is written by a western male. I have made a mental guide for myself on who and where to find a suitable girlfriend, but it will be no use for you if you are the opposite of me – middle-aged, divorced, having a considerable big salary and position and not knowing Vietnamese – and besides that I am constantly updating my own mental guide, I’m still in the learning process.
In a country where people average ,400 earnings a year per capita, it will be almost impossible to find a girl in the same socio-economic class as you – which in my eyes is most preferable when finding a suitable girl.
Single women above 30 are also a very good option, since many Vietnamese girls regard themselves as “useless” for marriage if they have reached an age of 30, which makes them pretty desperate, less-demanding and they receive a lot of pressure from the family.
We don’t have smart-ass Vietnamese men saying that western foreigners can only get “nguoi nha que”, it is actually the total opposite, they’d rather say that all the girls from Saigon are chasing foreigners (which is interesting, since in Vietnam people tend to think that city girls are more easy than countryside girls, which is opposite to Thailand if I have understood your and the readers’ observations on this issue correctly).
Knowing that I am probably 20 years younger than the average Stickman reader, I can give just some humble advice on finding a good Vietnamese girl.
Another good thing about Vietnam is that we have no such thing as “Isaan”.
Most of the “gold-diggers” and prostitutes come from the Mekong area, which is certainly not a poor area, but the discrepancy between rich and poor is bigger there, making prostitution and “gold-digging” a very attractive option to poor socio-economic disadvantaged local girls.