How to stop dating emotionally unavailable men
Attachment styles remain fairly stable throughout the lifespan, but can be changed with influences from a healthy, or unhealthy relationship, therapy, and self-awareness.
There are a few categories of attachment, but to simplify here, we’ll only discuss the secure, anxious, and avoidant styles.
The science of human attachment may be the best explanation for this pattern.
Many people who fear commitment and who struggle with intimacy and emotional connection are people with what’s called an avoidant attachment style.
Have you ever wondered why every partner you seem to attract is an emotional robot, or unavailable to meet your relationship needs?
You may see yourself as emotionally available, and feel confused about why you keep finding partners who are your opposite.
If you struggle with self-esteem, shyness, or feelings of inadequacy (like you’re not good enough), you may find it difficult to be authentic and vulnerable in intimate relationships.
This is a pattern that requires some attention and healing itself.You may find it intimidating to date people who are emotionally available, because it feels too risky.If this is the case, it’s time to work on taking the courageous step to be vulnerable and authentic in your relationships.Then he finally phoned me and said that it wasn’t working out for him, our worlds are too different, and he can’t give me what I need/want.I’m trying to process this and keep wondering what I might have done wrong, or whether I attract/am attracted to emotionally immature men.
Remember there are of emotionally available people who will be willing to go the distance, and share in the depth of love with you.