Dating someone with ptsd military
Well anyways about 41/2-5 years go by and my best friend Rachel and I started hanging out with people that we hung out with back in the day and at this time I’m 21 yrs old and able to actually go out like really go out u know.
So the people we started hanging out with and do stuff with were still older than us and they were all really good friends with Bubba they kept in touch with him and what not.
Among my friends, I’ve had girlfriends who want to hook them up with soldiers in my guy’s regiment, guyfriends who ask me if he’s going to kill them if they flirt with me, and even coworkers who, shall we say, were less than supportive of the military in general. So if your guy has committed himself to an serious relationship with you, he’s most likely going to stick to that commitment, and he expects you to do the same.
As a soldier’s girlfriend, you’ll have to field a lot of the same questions, and frequently clear up misnomers about the Army. Far too many of my soldier friends have had “Jodi” get their girl (you may want to look that up), and it’s especially hurtful to them.
But there was one time I went to see him at a friend’s place he was at and had called me to come over and I was SO nervous I dragged one of my friends with me and when we got there I think I may had said 2 whole words to him the whole time. that’s one thing bubba and I can do is talk and talk and talk.
But when it came to face to face talking I would chicken out get real shy I dunno why though, but then soon after that he moved up to South Carolina with his parents and really one of the last times we talked on the phone he wanted me to come up to one of the beaches up there for spring break with all his friends but I declined.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.It’s giving him a backrub if he’s been doing hard PT all week. This conflict runs through a soldier’s mind every day. But simply telling him you’re proud of him, and meaning it, will say so much more. If you’ve decided to enter a relationship with a soldier, congratulations. As my soldier recently put it, some the toughest jobs in the Army belong to the women who date, or marry into, it. I knew going into this that I wouldn’t see him for long periods of time. He has only been gone for 4 weeks and its already starting to tear me apart. Well anyways we met a long long time ago, the very first time that we met I was a freshman in h.s.These little slices of normality and tenderness can mean the world. So when it comes to your feelings, make it easy for him. For my first birthday we were a couple, my boyfriend gave me a set of his dogtags. And when people ask me about them, I puff out my chest and tell them the truth. But be warned: it’s not going to be anything like a “normal” relationship. two good girlfriends of mine and myself went to this guy’s house to pick up one of our other girlfriends to go out that night.Truth be told, it’s hard for them to turn this off.That coupled with the stress and exhaustion that comes with Army life can make it hard for him to spend lots of time planning things for the two of you to do together.
I’m sorry I wasn’t going to somewhere far away with no car of my own not really knowing anybody for some guy that I just really talk to on the phone and plus I wasn’t that interested for real so I didn’t go.