But opposites also attract, of course, including in the realm of religion.
Stephen Prothero, author of God Is Not One: The Eight Rival Religions That Run the World—and Why Their Differences Matter, shares what he has learned about making interfaith relationships work.
As our society and the world becomes more racially and religiously intertwined, I have not doubt that the questions and challenges relating to interfaith dating, i.e.
dating people of a different religion, will become more and more common.
Does he want you to go to church with him on Sundays? If you do have them together, what sort of spiritual upbringing will they have?
In many mixed-faith relationships, the goal is often just respect and understanding.
In fact, a New York–based modern Orthodox rabbi recently told me the prospect of his son marrying a non-Jew was "the nightmare scenario." Almost every couple I know, however, is an interfaith couple.
My friends are Catholics married to Jews, Protestants engaged to Buddhists and Hindus dating Muslims. According to the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life, 37 percent of married adults in the United States have spouses from a different religion.
The Capulets and the Montagues have nothing on the Hindus and the Muslims, and in many traditional Jewish homes, if you marry a Christian, your family might well disown you.Accept that the other person’s belief system may well be valid for them, even if it’s not the right path for you.Okay, so you were maybe raised Christian and you think it’s illogical – clearly it wasn’t the right religion for you.Is your lover concerned that he might not see you in the afterlife, because you’ll be burning in a fiery pit of Hell while he sings with the angels on high? Likewise, if there’s something your partner does that you find unnerving, let him know. Don’t tell him, “Well, maybe Wicca would work for you if you just tried it for a while.” That’s rude, offensive, and condescending.Think about how you’d feel if your fiancé said, “You’d probably love being Christian if you just gave it a chance.” Statements like this indicate a fundamental lack of respect for peoples’ beliefs – not a good thing in a close, loving relationship.