Dating exclusively but not boyfriendgirlfriend
We are both equally reluctant to take on the "relationship" label.
I think it's because it carries this intangible weight.
And I don't know what you mean when you say it makes things "too real." You're both real people, aren't you? So if you don't want it to be real, does that mean you want it to be fake?
I just don't understand this label-dodging business.
If things are good between you wouldn't worry too much about the labels. It doesn't do you any good to be afraid of certain words in the English language.Your emotions don't care if he's officially your bf or not. You don't have to be worried about, or in need of, a label for it to be convenient to have one."This is Science Gal" works, of course, but then someone will ask him "So, she's your girlfriend? (Maybe the response is "not yet" or "no" - that's fine.)My point was we finally verbalized that we are not seeing nor sleeping with anyone else.But after reading your follow up, I can see where you're coming from when you say that a key difference in just dating and calling it a relationship is the expectations that usually form as a result of saying "we're in a relationship.you're my boyfriend & I'm your girlfriend." So that kinda makes sense, but at the same time I don't think that refusing to use the word relationship is going to protect you from getting hurt or too involved.
And I don't know what you mean when you say it makes things "too real." You're both real people, aren't you? So if you don't want it to be real, does that mean you want it to be fake? I don't believe either of us will be meeting the other's family. a mutually agreeable arrangement between two consenting adults, you don't need to declare undying love for each other.