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Kids (and adults) who are considering coming out may have a hard time understanding and coping with these reactions. They often say things that are anti-gay or homophobic.
So, as you can see, the decision to come out is rarely easy and must be approached with caution. Have you overheard such remarks — perhaps in reference to someone else?
Listen to this advice if you feel that your parents may react the same, or worse.
Just hang in there and know that you're not alone, because I love you all I am 13 and it took me 3 years to love my self and respect my self.
Sometimes parents might suspect and mistakenly think their threats will "scare you straight." However, such threats should be taken seriously and factored into your decision of whether or not to come out. You are financially and physically dependent on your parents.
If you come out, what is the likelihood that your parents will throw you out of the house and/or withdraw all financial support (including money for college)? Could you handle it emotionally if they had a negative reaction? There may never be "the perfect time," and if there is one, you might lose your nerve and let the opportunity pass — that's ok, don't sweat it. Parents need time to deal with their self-blame, mourning, guilt, and worry.
If the chances of this happening are strong, you might want to consider "holding off" until you have finished school, are financially independent, and have your own place to live. Don't do it if you haven't developed a tough enough skin to hear initial statements, such as "You know, now you are going to hell! However, do not tell them in the midst of an argument or a family crisis. Don't try to argue them into accepting you (that rarely works). Among the parents of 65 gay and lesbian youth I interviewed, seeing their children were contented and doing well seemed to assuage parents' feelings of worry, guilt, and mourning. Sometimes when we come out, we expect our parents to go from 0 to 60 with lightning speed.
She did not have anything against gays so I thought it would be no big deal.
But I have to take the shit that's gonna happen to me through these 2 month until I find a little help....
Can any of you help me and tell me what I can do to convince my mom that being gay is not something bad...?
For the youth in my book, coming out to their parents (who were not rejecting) gave them a sense of relief and helped solidify their identities as gay men and lesbian women — and some parents found that a son or daughter's coming out actually made their families closer and stronger than ever before.
However, despite all of these benefits, sometimes it might not be a good idea for gay or lesbian (or bisexual or transgender) people to come out to their parents.
And now I still didn't travel to Egypt I am traveling alone with my mom and I know my mom is gonna take me for therapy and she expects me to say that " I wanna be straight" and shit.