Dating a woman 15 years older
I was considered too old for men my age, but not for those with 15 years or more on me.
As Ok Cupid founder Christian Rudder has said, this is quite common.
While I did get some messages from men closer to my own age, they were in the minority.
When I actively searched profiles of men in their early- and mid-thirties, I noticed that many specified that they preferred women in their twenties.
However, their age difference could not compensate for my father's insecurity over being with someone who had achieved more academically and professionally than he had.
This revelation soured me against dating any man who was more than a few years older. Last year, after a hiatus from online dating, I decided to return.
At 18, my mother met and married my 34-year-old father, who was a janitor in the building where she was an executive assistant.
Fresh out of high school, my father had been her first kiss, her first sexual experience, her first love.
In fact, such a lopsided romance is my origin story.Eventually, we arranged to meet at a cafe near my apartment.At the meeting, we spent over an hour discussing his writing.It seemed as if my friend's instincts were off, I thought. Earlier in our meeting, Bob described moving to the area as a 30-year-old in 1978 – the year I was born.But just as I was about to leave, Bob admitted that he was not that interested in me as a writing coach, but as a romantic prospect. Yet when I rejected him, he looked stung and startled, as though he was completely unaware of our significant age difference.
Such mansplaining is one of the many reasons I don't want to date significantly older men.